Thank you everyone for the comments and information. Preparing for the worst by having a good contract, getting agreements in place before raising a finger and thinking thru who is responsible to whom -- great advice.
The saga continues- the owner may have triggered this, (don't ask), which still doesn't free the contractor from the repercussions of building a deck that would collapse on itself and not following the permitted drawings.
I wanted to share an interesting experience. Yesterday I held a meeting with the owner to bring the temperature down based on emails I received with misstatements etc. I read recently Chris Voss' " Don't Split the Difference"- a book about his experience as a hostage negotiator. It worked wonders... for now at least...... People just want to be heard....
Many thanks to everyone
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Kathleen Sullivan AIA
Trio Architecture pllc
Hastings on Hudson NY
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