I hear this all the time. Ask the builder if he can seal the plans and take responsibility for the structure for a long time.
I do find engineers are a bit heavy handed. Call it a safety factor plus several errors and omission payments. Does the builder have such?
I have asked my engineer to approve by observation many times. Just based on the observation the building or detail has stood for 30 years a 100 years. Tested by time, a full scale working model. What more can one ask for. He always says no is it not fine. So we argue over it. He always wins when he ask me to stamp the drawings.
I use 4 engineers depending on the work. Some are more builder friendly than others. Ask some of the builders in your area who they call on.
I like a stiff floor l/480 or greater, wall and roof (no scalloping on a frosty morning for me). I also think about long term creep of wood. What is going to be like 20 years 40 years? Longer, a hundred years. So we do not design to minimums. Remember the building code is the least required by law. So the building code is good starting point.
Best of luck in your new PRACTICE..
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Donald Duffy AIA
Don Duffy Architecture
Charlotte NC
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