Hello Heather, and bless you for supporting the US housing market in this time of need. Regarding your builder, I would suggest what I have done in the past, which is, offer to pay your contractor on the same day he bills you, at your bank, with him signing a partial lien release for the work he has done (subject to clearing of your check) in the amount for which you are paying, notarized by a bank employee. I would also suggest that you consider having your builder provide a partial lien release for each of his subcontractors in the amounts of their work to date (that will be harder to obtain). That way, you would be protected from possible liens on your property for the amounts you are paying, and your builder gets paid on the spot, without having to wait for the mail or for you to issue a check by mail. Most builders will appreciate the payment on the same day, and will likely have no problem with their partial lien release, but the complications of obtaining subcontractor partial lien releases will probably be met with resistance, because your builder probably will not pay them until you pay him (and even perhaps not for a while after that).
Regarding what your contractor wants to charge you; that's really a bottom line decision between him and you. If you think you can get a better deal somewhere else for equal or better quality of construction, you can always consider others, which is the basis of our free market system.
Enjoy the build and your new house!
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Rand Soellner AIA
Architect/Owner/Principal
Rand Soellner Architect
Cashiers NC
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