To say "suburbia" doesn't have parks with civic presence or contact nature, etc., is too broad a generalization.
The town of Greenwich, like most towns in the New York suburbs, has some fine, well designed parks, by no means "leftover" space, but developed quite intentionally.
In the adjoining city of Stamford (poised between being a suburb and a city) a central park is in the final phase of remodeling by the famous firm of Olin.
This has something to do with having been towns, long before being absorbed in "suburbia."
So even for towns that don't have well-considered parks, there are instructive examples in other suburbs.
A couple of caveats:
The tendency to turn them into ball fields and parking must be resisted continually. But in the central city, as well. When I lived for more than a decade near Olmsted's brilliant Prospect Park in Brooklyn, there were "community" people who wanted much of it flattened and fenced for ball fields, while others in the community pressed for preservation/restoration.
In suburbs such as Greenwich and Stamford, CT, any redesign or restoration -- anything beyond mere maintenance -- is generally paid for by "Friends of..." types of groups, collecting contributions.
And that's as true in the heart of the city. The wonderful gardening and maintenance of Bryant Park and parts of Central Park in Manhattan is attributable to essentially private funding (in the form of Business Improvement Districts or "Friends of..." groups).
The tendency of city dwellers to trash the suburbs -- no culture, no social life, ethnic homogeneity, etc.,-- gets very tiresome and is generally inaccurate.
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John Dixon FAIA
Editor + Consultant
Old Greenwich CT
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